I finally got around to watching Amanda Palmer’s fantastically popular TED talk. She makes an interesting argument, that asking people for things affords them the opportunity to be generous. It’s okay to ask people for things, because the asking itself is a kind of exchange. That opportunity for generosity is in itself something that can be given to people.
If you’re not familiar with her, Palmer is a musician perhaps best known for two facts: She’s married to fantasy writer Neil Gaiman, himself incredibly successful; and she raised about $1.2 million on Kickstarter to fund the production of an album. In other words, she’s not arguing about asking for things because she has no other alternatives, because the constraints of poverty leave her no other options. She’s arguing about asking for things from an entirely different place.
There’s a lot to be said for asking; hell, as a journalist, I ask people for things all the time. And you’d be surprised how often people respond to being asked for things, because in some ways it’s so unusual. Declaring your intentions to the universe, as well, has its own power. Saying flat out what you want is a gesture of honesty and openness, revealing yourself and your desires. I applaud all of that.
But I see some big flaws in what she’s saying. For one thing, while Palmer might be open about what she’s seeking, she doesn’t necessarily know what someone else is seeking when they give her something. More importantly, her argument assumes that merely the asking is enough of an offering on the part of the asker. And sometimes, it isn’t. Sometimes, it’s just a way of avoiding being generous yourself, of denying that other people need things, too. Palmer herself has given us an unfortunate example of that.
Asking is a powerful action. Palmer learned this when she worked as a living statue, shortly after college. She was asking for a certain contact then, for a moment of connection, and she’d often get it, in a way people don’t necessarily get as they go to their offices or go get their coffees or pick up some groceries after work. But I think what she neglects in this argument is that she was, in fact, also asking for money. This was how she earned a living. Maybe the connection was nice, maybe the self-described “intense” eye contact gave her some satisfaction. But she was doing this for the money, and to gloss over that is to omit her central purpose. (As an aside, I walk past a lot of people doing similar in Times Square just about every day. I don’t see them as peddling connection so much as I see them trying to make a very difficult living. I give them a wide berth.)
When she toured on the album funded through Kickstarter, she asked for local musicians to volunteer to play on her stops. Again, asking is powerful, especially if it’s someone like Amanda Palmer – famous, successful, charismatic – who’s on the other end of the request. Asking for free labor in the arts, alas, is nothing new. Writers get asked to write for free all the time, for the nebulous benefit of exposure, much the same reward Palmer’s musicians got (aside from beer, high fives and hugs she promised). There’s something to be said for writing for free. It’s not like I get paid for this blog, after all, and for many sites, the user-generated comments are as much a part of the content as anything else, helping foster community. We’ve all done it.
But I’d say most of us (at least not those who consider themselves professionals) don’t do it for, say, the New Yorker. Or the Atlantic. Or the New York Times. Why not? Because those outlets are in a very different position from, say, this blog (har har). Those outlets are looking to get something out of a writer’s work beyond the opportunity for generosity, to the cold truth of profit. This very topic flared up recently when an editor at the Atlantic asked a well-known freelancer for a 1,200-word piece… for free. The writer refused, and he posted his correspondence with the editor to boot.
What’s the difference between Nate Thayer doing a piece for free for his own blog and doing a piece for free for the Atlantic? The Atlantic has no requirement to pay Thayer, after all. They don’t have a contract, and the magazine’s obligation is to itself, not to anyone else. But the Atlantic is also in business to make money; it’s seeking something out of Thayer’s work. It’s seeking profit. The Atlantic wasn’t just ungenerous with Thayer – and again, the magazine has no obligation to be generous – it was seeking something out of him that it wasn’t willing to offer him in return.
And this is Palmer’s problem. It’s one thing to ask your fans if anyone has a couch to borrow for the night (or several couches, for her crew and band, as well). Is that exploitative? Meh. It’s cheap, sure, but there’s nothing necessarily wrong with that. If someone lives in a mansion with several extra rooms – an example Palmer herself brought up – well, hey, a few more houseguests wouldn’t seem a problem. The family of Honduran immigrants, who gave up their beds for Palmer et al., would seem a different question; they don’t have the beds to spare, and Palmer is actually displacing them for her own comfort. But then, the family could just as easily offered her the sofa instead, so it’s hardly cut and dried.
Still, Palmer could just as easily offered to take the sofa, couldn’t she? And with $1.2 million to fund her album, she could also have paid the musicians who played along her tour something, even if just a small fee. Instead, she seems to be saying, merely responding to her request was reward enough for those musicians. But unlike the couchsurfing, Palmer is asking for something here that she then commercializes. In asking for Thayer’s work, the Atlantic was seeking to profit off him. In asking musicians to play for free along her tour, Palmer was also looking to profit off others. In a way, she was asking for money again, just as in her living statue days. And again, she glosses over the financial gain she derived from these people. If she’d been playing free shows, basement parties, benefits, what have you? That’s a completely different story. That’s the difference between cutting a check to your favorite charity and writing an extra check to your local power company, just because you like electricity and what the hell, you have the money.
At some point, then, Palmer seems to be saying you should just try to score as much free shit as you can because it’s cool that people are willing to give you stuff. Palmer’s not a charity, and to treat herself as one for the sake of her argument (i.e, for the sake of getting stuff for free from people) strikes me as oblivious and self-serving at best. Palmer did eventually begin paying those local musicians on her tour – but only after an internet uproar. Ironically, for someone who so lavishly praises the generosity of others toward her, she was remarkably slow to offer that same generosity to others.